In all situations we are confronted with, we must decide if we will play the victim or the victor. It is very easy and often times attractive to allow ourselves to be the victim. When you are the victim someone has done YOU wrong. You get the sympathy from others. Your friends and family take on your indignations. They want to hurt the person who hurt you.
You find out that you've been cheated on, victim.
You find out that she was not really your friend, victim.
You are passed over for a promotion, victim.
You find out your peers make more money than you, victim.
You were not invited to the party, victim.
Did it ever occur to you that perhaps you are not the victim at all? That maybe God has been trying to tell you all along that it is time to leave. That you have overstayed your welcome. That the season has ended. Just maybe it was never meant to be in the first place. Or maybe what you have already attained is enough.
We choose to be the victim when we should use these uncomfortable, frustrating, hurtful times to reflect. To re-group. To strategize. To look for the lesson from God.
Perhaps your finding out that he is a cheater will free you up to go meet your true mate. Maybe if you stayed in the bad relationship one more minute you would have missed your chance encounter with your real mate at Borders.
Perhaps you find out that she is not your friend afterall so now you can stop spending time with a person who makes you feel insecure, doubtful, unworthy of happiness.
Maybe you did not get the promotion because it comes with a lot more stress and headache and you are better off leaving at 5 to go home to your family.
Finding out that your peers make more than you may motivate you to work harder, ask for more responsibility, find a new job.
You were not invited to the party to spare you from running into your cheating ex boyfriend that we discussed earlier! Aren't you glad you dodged that bullet?
In all situations we have a choice to be the victim or the victor.
I choose to be the victor. When will you?
1 comment:
I agreee with this on many levels but often time it is hard to make your heart follow your head. One can choose to be the victim or the victor but it is not always so cut and dry, so black and white. This is especially true when it comes to things and/or people that you truely care about. One may be able to make this philosophy work in several areas but not in others. For example I may be taken aback for a moment if a friend, associate or whatever does not inivte me to a party but I can quickly chalk it up to them missing out on hanging with a cool chick...that I was not suppossed to be a part of that group at that point and time. As for work it is hard to accept that you are in the same job or making the same pay when you know that you work harder than a lot of people but I also don't take that as an attack to my core...as to who I really am. So yes this is a very poignant post that I will really think about.
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